An old proverb says when wealth is lost, nothing is lost; when character is lost, all is lost.
I have always wondered what is “Character”?
I speak from male point of view but everyone can relate the character in its own way on similar ground.
I tried to find the meaning of character from various sources and how the loss of character results in losing everything, and what makes it so important.
Is it a loss of character to have an affair with someone. Is a character lost, when the person is having crush on someone or is involved with someone. Does flirting means loss of character?
It is normal to have attractions towards the other gender, at all ages and especially for teens, will it result in loss of character. Watching a movie result in loss of character or watching beautiful girls in swimming pool results in the loss of character.
In fact it would be bad for girls if no one looks at them. I have also seen myself seeing girls in Bikini at swimming pool or in movies. I think it is absolutely normal to see what they are showing and also when you see them closely, they try to show you more.
In fact at a particular age, the teens only think of dating or sex. But then how does one define character.
The word Character means mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual, but it does not define character in general for all.
I think, it is normal to go out on date and have an affair if other person is also interested and agrees and do whatever you like. It okay to date, etc
However I think it is okay to enjoy life, and admire the beauty. If it was not so, than God would not have made women so beautiful.
A person of character knows the difference in beauty and pain.
When you see a young beggar girl in rags, you should not try to peep in her torn clothes or oversized / undersized rags, etc. At this time, your eyes should look not at her or you should face the other side.
Don’t try to discover the beauty in her problem. It is shame to embarrass her.
Similarly, sometimes you see a poor lady taking bath in open. Don’t try to explore her body. Under such circumstance the eyes should always look down or other side. She is taking bath in open but she does not have a good bathroom to comfortably bath in.
If you try to take advantage in such situation, this is loss of character.
We have now observed, when somebody tries to seek help for senior / boss / other person, he thinks it is an opportunity to exploit, where as this is an opportunity to help and not exploit.
Such person in position sees everything as his opportunity to exploit. He tries his best to take advantage in terms of favors like sex, money, abuse, etc
The poor beggar is so badly hit by her problems, that there she is not able to defend herself, but the pain always remains. Similar situation comes every day to us in various forms. How we behave defines a character of person.
These things are not taught in any school nor any parents educated their kids for same and thus whenever a person comes in position, he sees everything as opportunities to exploit.
These case are later sometimes reported under Me Too Movement, etc
Had the children been educated for character, this would result in better life.
